Atvadas no r\u012bta d\u0101rzi\u0146\u0101 var izv\u0113rsties par gr\u016btu br\u012bdi, ja b\u0113rns t\u0101 viet\u0101, lai dotos grupi\u0146\u0101, ap\u0137eras vec\u0101kam ap kaklu un apraudas. K\u0101 r\u012bkoties vec\u0101kiem, k\u0101 grupi\u0146as skolot\u0101j\u0101m, st\u0101sta fizioterapeite osteop\u0101te L\u012bga Latkovska, priv\u0101t\u0101s pirmsskolas izgl\u012bt\u012bbas iest\u0101des \u201eCreaKids\u201d skolot\u0101ja Egita Liepi\u0146a un \u0101rsts psihoterapeits Art\u016brs Miksons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ja m\u0113s, pieaugu\u0161ie, padom\u0101jam par savu ikdienu, varam atrast situ\u0101cijas, kuras sag\u0101d\u0101 gr\u016bt\u012bbas un no kur\u0101m daudz labpr\u0101t\u0101k izvair\u012btos. At\u0161\u0137ir\u012bb\u0101 no b\u0113rniem m\u0113s daudz lab\u0101k esam iem\u0101c\u012bju\u0161ies gr\u016bt\u012bbas apzin\u0101ties un t\u0101s p\u0101rvar\u0113t. Lai ar\u012b ie\u0161ana b\u0113rnud\u0101rz\u0101 atvasei ir priec\u012bgs notikums, r\u012bta atvadas var b\u016bt emocion\u0101li nepat\u012bkamas. Nav viennoz\u012bm\u012bgas atbildes, cik ilgu periodu kopum\u0101 vai cik ilgi katru r\u012btu b\u0113rns dr\u012bkst\u0113tu raud\u0101t. Tas atkar\u012bgs gan no konkr\u0113t\u0101s situ\u0101cijas, gan ar\u012b no b\u0113rna person\u012bbas \u012bpatn\u012bb\u0101m. \u0100rsts psihoterapeits Art\u016brs Miksons st\u0101sta, ka svar\u012bgi ir v\u0113rot b\u0113rnu dinamik\u0101 \u2013 norm\u0101l\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101 da\u017eu ned\u0113\u013cu laik\u0101 p\u0113c b\u0113rnud\u0101rza gaitu uzs\u0101k\u0161anas raud\u0101\u0161anai b\u016btu j\u0101izbeidzas vai vismaz j\u0101samazin\u0101s. Ja r\u012bta raud\u0101\u0161ana ievilkusies vair\u0101k nek\u0101 m\u0113nesi, ir j\u0101mekl\u0113 iemesli. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pieder\u012bbas izj\u016btas veido\u0161ana <\/strong> Iej\u016bt\u012bba un emp\u0101tija, nevis tehniska apr\u016bpe<\/strong> B\u0113rna izj\u016btu akcept\u0113\u0161ana<\/strong> Ja neraud\u0101t\u0101js s\u0101k raud\u0101t<\/strong> Padoms pedagogiem!<\/strong> Ja b\u0113rnam no r\u012btiem ir gr\u016bti atvad\u012bties no vec\u0101kiem, p\u0113c tam, kad tas izdar\u012bts, varat sarun\u0101t ar b\u0113rnu, ka nos\u016bt\u012bsiet vec\u0101kiem foto, kur\u0101 vi\u0146\u0161 redzams apmierin\u0101ts un darb\u012bgs. \u0160\u0101ds pa\u0146\u0113miens \u013caus mazajam sajusties tuv\u0101k vec\u0101kiem, k\u0101 ar\u012b mammai un t\u0113tim \u013caus justies mier\u012bg\u0101kiem, ka ar atvasi viss ir k\u0101rt\u012bb\u0101. <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0145em v\u0113r\u0101!<\/strong> T\u0101 var b\u016bt, ka vair\u0101kiem b\u0113rniem vienlaikus no r\u012bta gribas m\u012b\u013cumu un fiziskus piesk\u0101rienus. T\u0101d\u0113\u013c b\u0113rnud\u0101rz\u0101 v\u0113l pirms brokast\u012bm var organiz\u0113t mier\u012bgu aktivit\u0101ti, kur mazie var sas\u0113sties cie\u0161i ap skolot\u0101ju, paklaus\u012bties k\u0101du st\u0101stu, pasaku vai vienk\u0101r\u0161i mier\u012bgi parun\u0101ties. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Padoms vec\u0101kiem!<\/strong> V\u0113lams r\u012bta laiku pl\u0101not t\u0101, lai br\u012bdis d\u0101rzi\u0146a \u0123\u0113rbtuv\u0113 ir bez steigas \u2013 lai atvase var mier\u012bgi no\u0123\u0113rbties, samekl\u0113t un uzvilkt apavus, par\u0101d\u012bt iepriek\u0161\u0113j\u0101s dienas z\u012bm\u0113jumus un nesteidz\u012bgi atvad\u012bties. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Atvadas no r\u012bta d\u0101rzi\u0146\u0101 var izv\u0113rsties par gr\u016btu br\u012bdi, ja b\u0113rns t\u0101 viet\u0101, lai dotos grupi\u0146\u0101, ap\u0137eras vec\u0101kam ap kaklu…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":584,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=583"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":586,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/583\/revisions\/586"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/584"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=583"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=583"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/happykids.lv\/lv\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=583"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
No r\u012bta, kad b\u0113rns dodas uz b\u0113rnud\u0101rzu, vi\u0146\u0161, t\u0113laini izsakoties, ir ar t\u0101du k\u0101 \u201evadi\u0146u\u201d rok\u0101. Non\u0101kot grupi\u0146\u0101, vi\u0146\u0161 mekl\u0113, kur to var \u201eiespraust\u201d. Citiem v\u0101rdiem sakot, mekl\u0113, kur vi\u0146\u0161 iederas un var justies dro\u0161i, t\u0101d\u0113\u013c svar\u012bgi, ka audzin\u0101t\u0101ja pal\u012bdz b\u0113rnam t\u0101dam justies. Ir pavisam vienk\u0101r\u0161i pa\u0146\u0113mieni, k\u0101 to izdar\u012bt, piem\u0113ram, audzin\u0101t\u0101ja var mazajam pan\u0101k pret\u012b un pateikt labr\u012bt. \u201ePavisam lieliski, ja vi\u0146a v\u0113l atceras, kas ir bijis iepriek\u0161\u0113j\u0101 dien\u0101 un k\u0101di pl\u0101ni b\u0113rnam biju\u0161i vakar\u0101. Audzin\u0101t\u0101ja var pajaut\u0101t, k\u0101 ir kl\u0101jies, vai ir izdevies paveikt iecer\u0113to. T\u0101d\u0113j\u0101di b\u0113rns saprot, ka vi\u0146\u0161 d\u0101rzi\u0146\u0101 ir gaid\u012bts un ka te vi\u0146am ir, kur palikt,\u201d st\u0101sta fizioterapeite osteop\u0101te L\u012bga Latkovska.
B\u0113rnam ir gr\u016bti, ja br\u012bd\u012b, kad vi\u0146\u0161 ien\u0101k grupi\u0146\u0101, audzin\u0101t\u0101ja ir iegrimusi sav\u0101s dar\u012b\u0161an\u0101s. Mazais l\u012bdz ar to nej\u016btas gaid\u012bts un pieder\u012bgs. Ir audzin\u0101t\u0101jas, kur\u0101m b\u0113rnu sagaid\u012b\u0161ana san\u0101k \u013coti dabiski, bet ir t\u0101das, pie kur\u0101m b\u0113rni j\u016btas nedaudz apjuku\u0161i. Skolot\u0101ja Egita Liepi\u0146a nor\u0101da, ka, uzs\u0101kot sarunu ar uztrauktu b\u0113rnu, pedagogam j\u0101atrodas b\u0113rna acu augstum\u0101. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eB\u016btu lieliski, ja m\u016bsu b\u0113rnud\u0101rzos b\u016btu viens pieaugu\u0161ais uz trim \u010detriem b\u0113rniem. K\u0101 zin\u0101ms, mums uz 20\u201325 b\u0113rniem ir viena audzin\u0101t\u0101ja un aukl\u012bte. \u0160\u0101d\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101 fiziski ir gr\u016bti nodibin\u0101t kontaktu ar katru audz\u0113kni. Aukl\u012bt\u0113m n\u0101kas, piem\u0113ram, autom\u0101tiski p\u0101r\u0123\u0113rbt maz\u0101kos b\u0113rnus visus p\u0113c k\u0101rtas. Tas ietekm\u0113 ar\u012b b\u0113rna \u0137ermenisko apzi\u0146u \u2013 vajag, nevajag, gribu, negribu. Ir mammas, kuras ir st\u0101st\u012bju\u0161as \u2013 redzot \u0161o ikdienu, negribas b\u0113rnu laist b\u0113rnud\u0101rz\u0101. J\u0101, grupi\u0146\u0101 varb\u016bt ir m\u012b\u013cas audzin\u0101t\u0101jas, bet vi\u0146u ir par maz. Rezult\u0101t\u0101 b\u0113rni neizj\u016bt tik nepiecie\u0161amo m\u012b\u013cumu un pieder\u012bbu, t\u0101p\u0113c no r\u012btiem raud,\u201d st\u0101sta L\u012bga Latkovska.
Savuk\u0101rt Art\u016brs Miksons aktualiz\u0113 jaut\u0101jumu: ja b\u0113rna raud\u0101\u0161ana no r\u012btiem ir ilgsto\u0161a, vai pa\u0161i vec\u0101ki gana daudz run\u0101 ar savu atvasi par to, kur un k\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146i no r\u012bta dodas, vai vec\u0101ki pietiekami rea\u0123\u0113 uz maz\u0101 cilv\u0113ka vajadz\u012bb\u0101m, izturas emp\u0101tiski un saproto\u0161i? \u201eJ\u0101, run\u0101t var ar\u012b ar pusotru divus gadus vecu b\u0113rnu \u2013 vi\u0146am saprotam\u0101 valod\u0101, akcept\u0113jot vi\u0146a izj\u016btas un p\u0101rdz\u012bvojumus,\u201d t\u0101 \u0101rsts psihoterapeits. Vienlaikus ir j\u0101apdom\u0101, ko tad b\u0113rnam \u012bsti teikt \u2013 k\u0101p\u0113c vi\u0146am j\u0101iet uz b\u0113rnud\u0101rzu? Nevajadz\u0113tu teikt, ka mammai un t\u0113tim j\u0101iet uz darbu, bet tevi diem\u017e\u0113l nav, kur likt. Daudz v\u0113rt\u012bg\u0101k ir b\u0113rnam st\u0101st\u012bt par ieguvumiem no d\u0101rzi\u0146a apmekl\u0113\u0161anas \u2013 par lieliskaj\u0101m aktivit\u0101t\u0113m, kas tur sagaida, ko jaunu var\u0113s iem\u0101c\u012bties, par rota\u013c\u0101m, ko var\u0113s uzsp\u0113l\u0113t ar draugiem.
L\u012bga Latkovska piebilst, ka nesen medi\u0137u aprind\u0101s aktualiz\u0113jies jaut\u0101jums par to, ka daudzi pacienti pie \u0123imenes \u0101rsta dodas ar da\u017e\u0101d\u0101m somatisk\u0101m s\u016bdz\u012bb\u0101m, bet paties\u012bb\u0101 vi\u0146iem b\u016btu j\u0101dodas pie psihoterapeita. T\u0101d\u0101m situ\u0101cij\u0101m nereti s\u0101kums esot mekl\u0113jams b\u0113rna agr\u012bn\u0101 vecum\u0101. B\u0113rnud\u0101rz\u0101 b\u016btu j\u0101b\u016bt nevis b\u0113rna tehniskai apr\u016bpei, kam\u0113r mamma un t\u0113tis str\u0101d\u0101, bet vietai, kur vi\u0146\u0161 j\u016btas ar\u012b emocion\u0101li dro\u0161i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nedr\u012bkst\u0113tu b\u016bt situ\u0101cija, ka vec\u0101ks raudo\u0161u b\u0113rnu pamet d\u0101rzi\u0146\u0101 \u2013 kam\u0113r audzin\u0101t\u0101ja nov\u0113r\u0161 uzman\u012bbu, mamma vai t\u0113tis aiz\u0161mauc prom. T\u0101d\u0101 situ\u0101cij\u0101 mazu\u013ci var palikt \u0101rk\u0101rt\u012bgi tram\u012bgi, jo nesaprot, kur\u0101 br\u012bd\u012b vec\u0101ki var pazust. Tas b\u0113rniem ir liels p\u0101rdz\u012bvojums un rada stresu visai dienai.
Ar\u012b steigas piln\u0101 r\u012bt\u0101 b\u0113rnud\u0101rz\u0101 ir svar\u012bgi apstiprin\u0101t un akcept\u0113t b\u0113rna v\u0113lmes. Uz maz\u0101 teikto: \u201eEs gribu m\u0101j\u0101s, negribu palikt d\u0101rzi\u0146\u0101\u201d vec\u0101ku atbilde var\u0113tu b\u016bt: \u201eEs dzirdu un saprotu, ka v\u0113lies m\u0101j\u0101s, bet \u0161obr\u012bd ir j\u0101dodas uz d\u0101rzi\u0146u\u201d. Mazajam ir j\u0101dod akcepts, ka vi\u0146\u0161 dr\u012bkst raud\u0101t un skumt.
Kad b\u0113rna v\u0113lme ir sadzird\u0113ta, akcept\u0113ta, tad varam vi\u0146u sabu\u010dot un nodot g\u0101d\u012bg\u0101s audzin\u0101t\u0101jas rok\u0101s. Skolot\u0101ja Egita Liepi\u0146a uzsver, ka vec\u0101kiem nevajadz\u0113tu atvadu br\u012bdi vilkt garum\u0101, bet uztic\u0113ties, ka pedagogi zin\u0101s, k\u0101 b\u0113rnu nomierin\u0101t, k\u0101 piev\u0113rst vi\u0146a uzman\u012bbu aizraujo\u0161\u0101m un interesant\u0101m dienas nodarb\u0113m. Psihoterapeits Art\u016brs Miksons atg\u0101dina, ka ar\u012b atvadu br\u012bd\u012b vec\u0101kiem j\u0101pieturas pie iepriek\u0161 sac\u012bt\u0101. Ja ir bijusi noruna, ka vec\u0101ks pal\u012bdz\u0113s b\u0113rnam no\u0123\u0113rbties, sabu\u010dos un tad dosies uz darbu, tad tam t\u0101 ar\u012b j\u0101notiek. Vec\u0101kiem nevajadz\u0113tu pak\u013cauties impulsiem aizs\u0113d\u0113ties vai piek\u0101pties un vest b\u0113rnu m\u0101j\u0101s.
Run\u0101jot par b\u0113rna emocij\u0101m, svar\u012bgi, lai, mazajam non\u0101kot grupi\u0146\u0101, audzin\u0101t\u0101ja vai aukl\u012bte nenoliegtu vi\u0146a izj\u016btas un v\u0113lmes, sakot: \u201eBeidz raud\u0101t! Tas nav nekas traks, vakar\u0101 tev b\u016bs paka\u013c.\u201d Bet gan t\u0101 viet\u0101 akcept\u0113tu b\u0113rna p\u0101rdz\u012bvojumu: \u201eTas ir b\u0113d\u012bgi, ka mammai bija j\u0101dodas prom, bet vakar\u0101 vi\u0146a b\u016bs atpaka\u013c.\u201d Egita Liepi\u0146a st\u0101sta, ka parasti pedagogi labi j\u016bt, kuram b\u0113rnam nepiecie\u0161ama ilg\u0101ka sam\u012b\u013co\u0161ana, ilg\u0101ks br\u012bti\u0146\u0161 audzin\u0101t\u0101jas kl\u0113p\u012b. Starp citu, reiz\u0113m noskumu\u0161am mazulim k\u013c\u016bst viegl\u0101k, ja vi\u0146am pasaka, ka grup\u0101 vi\u0146u gaida draugs, kur\u0161 priec\u0101tos sam\u012b\u013coties vai kop\u0101 pasp\u0113l\u0113ties. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
M\u0113dz b\u016bt situ\u0101cijas, kad b\u0113rns, kur\u0161 ir labi iedz\u012bvojies b\u0113rnud\u0101rza vid\u0113 un ritm\u0101 un kuram no r\u012btiem nav probl\u0113mu p\u0113c atvad\u0101m no vec\u0101kiem doties uz grupi\u0146u, p\u0113k\u0161\u0146i k\u0101d\u0101 r\u012bt\u0101 ap\u0137eras mammai vai t\u0113tim ap kaklu un raudot apgalvo, ka nev\u0113las palikt. \u0160\u012b ir situ\u0101cija, kad vec\u0101kam tom\u0113r vajadz\u0113tu atrast laiku d\u0101rzi\u0146\u0101 uzkav\u0113ties, aprun\u0101ties ar b\u0113rnu, lai m\u0113\u0123in\u0101tu saprast, kas ir atgad\u012bjies. Var b\u016bt, ka mazais vienk\u0101r\u0161i ir noguris un pavisam slikt\u0101 noska\u0146ojum\u0101, l\u012bdz ar to ilg\u0101ks br\u012bti\u0146\u0161 mammas vai t\u0113ta kl\u0113p\u012b var pal\u012bdz\u0113t sajusties lab\u0101k. Var b\u016bt ar\u012b t\u0101, ka b\u0113rns j\u016btas slikti, jo s\u0101k izpausties iepriek\u0161 neman\u012bta slim\u012bba \u2013 galvu spie\u017e iesnas, kas t\u016bda\u013c b\u016bs kl\u0101t, vai ar\u012b ce\u013cas temperat\u016bra. Da\u017ereiz b\u0113rns var b\u016bt satraucies, ja dienas gait\u0101 pl\u0101nota k\u0101da neparasta aktivit\u0101te vai uzst\u0101\u0161an\u0101s. Ja citi iemesli nav atrodami, vajadz\u0113tu aprun\u0101ties ar skolot\u0101ju \u2013 varb\u016bt iepriek\u0161\u0113j\u0101 dien\u0101 grupi\u0146\u0101 ir atgad\u012bjies kaut kas, k\u0101 d\u0113\u013c mazais tur nev\u0113las doties. Pie vainas var b\u016bt ar\u012b attiec\u012bbu sasp\u012bl\u0113jumi m\u0101j\u0101s, k\u0101 d\u0113\u013c b\u0113rns ir sajuties nedro\u0161s un nev\u0113las atlaist mammas vai t\u0113ta roku. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
IDEJA!<\/strong> B\u0113rnam atvad\u012bties no vec\u0101kiem var pal\u012bdz\u0113t m\u0101\u0161ana pa logu. Kad mazais redz mammu vai t\u0113ti pagalm\u0101, abi var viens otram pam\u0101t, nos\u016bt\u012bt gaisa bu\u010du vai par\u0101d\u012bt no plaukst\u0101m veidotu sirsni\u0146u. Tas b\u016bs jauks br\u012bdis, kura piedz\u012bvo\u0161anai vajadz\u0113s palaist vec\u0101ku va\u013c\u0101 un doties pie loga. <\/p>\n\n\n\n